If you are reading this one-handed, phone propped against a pillow while your other arm holds a baby who will not settle, I want you to know I have been exactly where you are, more nights than I can count, with both of my children.

You are probably running through a list right now — did I do something wrong today, is this normal, will I ever sleep again, am I the only mother who feels this alone at this hour. I cannot answer all of that from here. But I can tell you that the list is not evidence against you. It is evidence that you love this baby enough to lose sleep worrying about doing right by them.

The verse that got me through my own worst nights was not a promise that the night would end quickly. It was a promise about mornings: His mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:23). Not recycled from yesterday’s failures. New. Whatever tonight feels like, it does not get the final word over tomorrow.

So, mother at 3 a.m. — you are not failing. You are doing one of the hardest, most invisible jobs a person can do, in the dark, with no applause. I am praying for you right now, whoever and wherever you are. Put the baby down when you can, rest when you can, and let the morning come. It always does.